Friday, November 13, 2015
Someone kept calling my office and hanging up when I answered. In this electronically-challenged institution the phones oddly have caller ID. I knew it was the nurse who got another nurse in trouble for having good relations with patients. This nurse has become more hyper and stubborn lately.
So I called her ward. I told her that someone keeps calling and hanging up when I answer. She said it was her and I did not answer the phone; "It rang and rang and I don't have time for that."
I said that the phone rings four times before switching into voicemail and that I picked up by the second ring.
She said, "You did not answer the phone."
I said, "Yes I did."
Normally I wouldn't bother, but this nurse has really been irking me lately. She exploded into "How dare you accuse me!" and "You are the one not doing your job." She also threw in, "It's about patient care, not you," as if calling me repeatedly and hanging up helps a patient.
I yelled back. I was so glad that my supervisor was not around.
Later in the day, I went to her ward under the pretense of needing a record. She left me alone.
I am never sure if pushing back will make someone stop bothering me, or come at me worse.
My friend offers her mother's advice: If someone slaps you, don't turn the other cheek. Hit that person back so hard that they never try to hit you again.
The next day, this nurse called my office for me to cancel a test scheduled for one of her patients. I said okay. Later, she called back and I let my supervisor answer because I was in avoidance mode. The nurse talked so loudly that I easily heard her saying, "I told Nurse Enid this earlier, but she didn't understand. I need the test cancelled for Mr Smith."
She undermines other people for no reason except to be nasty. I switched out of avoidance mode and called her ward. I asked her why she told my supervisor that I did not understand her earlier phonecall.
She screamed, "You are not supposed to be listening in on other people's private phone conversations. That is illegal."
That was a diversion tactic. "I'm still waiting for you to answer my question. Why did you call my supervisor and imply that I am an idiot incapable of understanding your simple directive?"
"I don't have to answer you! You are harassing me!" she screamed and slammed down the phone.
I don't know if I have to keep doing this, or somehow increase the severity to get her to leave me alone. I understand that she has some personality glitch that makes her behave this way, but she chooses her victims. She doesn't do this to everyone, only a select few. I need to get off her chosen list.